Due to our upbringing, many of us start our writing day already battling our inner critic. We know the critic is harsh and unfair, and yet we fear everything they say is true. Who are we beyond their judgment? Here is a tool to help you find freedom from the critic.
Think of this like warming up. Let's go over things to tell yourself before you start writing for the day.
Give yourself 60 seconds. Look at yourself in the mirror. Pay attention to your body language. Your posture, breathing, the location of your hands, tells you a lot about how you view yourself. Where are you today?
Don’t worry if your inner critic leaps at the chance to shame you. You are where you are.
1. Let’s start with this. Look at these aspects. Circle which ones you identify with, and say each one to yourself. “I am…” This isn't a complete list. You may notice aspects of yourself that aren't mentioned.
If you can't find one you connect with, just say, "I'm awesome." You may not believe it yet. That's okay. Sometimes, these affirmations are more about practicing something healthy, new, and free from the messages of shame we grew up with.
Now let’s look at some more advanced affirmations.
2. I am good and getting better at -insert aspect of writing-, and I am grateful to share this with readers.
3. I really struggle with -insert aspect of writing-, but I see this and will get better with practice.
4. I see the usefulness and value of all things, including what I learn from my mistakes.
5. I celebrate myself when things are good, and I support myself when things are bad.
6. I have the right to ask for help.
7. Asking for help means I am embracing a growth opportunity and a chance for connection with another person.
8. I see opportunities for growth as proof of my potential, not evidence of my failure.
9. I set healthy limits and boundaries for myself. Sometimes, this means respecting my commitment to writing itself. Other times, this means knowing when to take a break.
10. As I practice healthy limits and boundaries, they will become easier to set and honor.
11. I set appropriate boundaries with people and behaviors that are not good for me.
12. I do not chase affirmation and approval from people who will not or cannot give it.
13. I will learn how to play and have fun, especially when telling stories.
14. I am here, I am alive, I am in my body.
15. I am human, and I have something to offer the world.
16. I face my mistakes and the opinions of others with confidence.
17. I have paid my dues with the countless cursings, threats, and neglectful acts I endured as a child and adult.
18. I have earned the right to exist simply by being me.
19. It’s okay if my affirmation work begins as surface work that I don’t really believe. I am doing the inner work that will transform my sense of self.
These affirmations are also a good daily exercise to develop a healthier sense of self. They are one part of learning to see, accept, and love yourself in totality, the good and the bad. Thanks for reading. Me and Sydney hope you have a good rest of your day.